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    Sharing this sport with your children?

    Your thoughts on sharing this sport with your children?

    I have had mixed thoughts on this. On the one hand, I am second generation motorcyclist. My father contracted THE ILLNESS in his early days as traffic officer for Portland Police Bureau (btw, his first bike was a airhead in the 1960s). Still have vivid memories of him mounting and kicking his HD PD bike in the garage headed to work. I, and my two brothers, followed suit; and my younger brother was also a motor-officer. However, I am older parent (47) with a 6 year old (only child); and both think of his (likely) future on motorbikes with joyful anticipation and FEAR. Anxiety to point, I have thought about hanging it up to prevent the spread of this obsession.

    Have others struggled with this or am I just OCD?

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    I am too a motor cop with the illiness, have two children, also 6 yoa. I would not give it up. There other things that could "hurt" your child. The leading cause of death is what we eat..............

    So I would continue what your dad had started. Just teach the correct way of motorcycling. Just my opinion...........
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    Quote Originally Posted by GoNoPo View Post
    Your thoughts on sharing this sport with your children?

    Have others struggled with this or am I just OCD?
    OCD. Ride. Teach him to ride ... properly.

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    I think my #1 job as a parent if to share my values with my child.
    And that's what I'm doing.

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    Looking forward to it.

    I'm looking forward to the day I can share riding with my son. He's only a year and a half, so I've got a few years to wait. But, I will. Right now I'm staring at a photo of the guy as the happiest purple and green dinosaur ever. I expect-hope he will have the same grin when he's old enough to ride with me.
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    I answered this question a few years ago on another forum, here is my answer.

    Having raised three boys and teaching them all to ride, and having a wife who rides, I have asked myself this question more than once. The boys were a good excuse for some dirt bikes, which turned into street riding for them. My oldest son had his motorcycle license as soon as he turned 16, and had it for 6 months before he got his car license. All three boyÔÇÖs got there motorcycle licenses at 16, and have been riding since, youngest is now 25, and knock on wood, there has been only one minor street incident from the oldest in his first year, caused by a tank-slapper.

    Others said it and I agree, teach them well and never quit teaching them. I started the boyÔÇÖs road education long before they were old enough to get a license. When we would travel in a car, I would frequently point out potential situations and challenge them to do the same. In fact after a while, they would recognize and point out potential hazards before I would see them. This game is much more educational than looking for license plates from Alabama.

    Now all my boyÔÇÖs and wife ride regularly, and for the last seven years all of our vacations have been either motorcycle or ski related, it is a bond that keep us together as a family. Even though they are adults now, we still enjoy track days, day trips, and we all did a Europe trip three years ago.

    If he wants to ride street, it is better to let him start now while he is still young enough to learn from you. Do I worry, yes, but I have to trust their knowledge and skill. I never quit teaching them and reminding them of their mortality. Point out hazards and talk about accidents and fatalities that happen in your area, discuss ÔÇ£what ifÔÇØ scenarios. This hobby can be one of the best things you share.

    Now I will add a P.S. to this, as our family suffered what most fear, we lost our oldest son to a motorcycle accident, or I believe the 16" wide tar strip running down the middle of the interstate, a month ago at the age of 29. Do I still stand by the above, yes I do.

    The following is what I wrote after the fact, on a local board where he and I had many riding friends.

    I have had a few PMÔÇÖs from people that are concerned for our family, so I thought I would check in. Again we thank everyone for their concerns, thoughts and prayers.
    I truly believe that funerals should not be about the passing of the person, but a celebration of their life. So I was in charge of searching through the thousands of pictures, including the old slides, to make a digital slide show of his life, to show at the calling hours and services. We ended up with a couple of boards with snapshots attached, and three flat screens scrolling over 350 photos of his life.

    It was hard at first, but as I began to find more and more pictures of his life, good memories flooded in to reinforced my belief that it is all about the life, not the passing. I truly believe Kevin lived a good one. As a family we traveled frequently taking annual and numerous other vacations. Kevin, his two brothers and the wife I spent a month traveling the Rockies in the ÔÇÿ94. We had traveled all over the east coast and Canada numerous times. As a family we skied and motorcycled, we even took the entire family to the Alps to ride in 2004 for two weeks. I reflected and realized that even though he was with us a short time, we squeezed out more than many would in several life times. No, we were not wealthy, but we were frugal and rather than spend money on the material goods, invested in the family. The wife and I both agree, particularly in retrospect, that this was one of the best decisions we made in our lives.

    Those here know the dangers of riding, in fact a few times when others have expressed concern about letting other family members take up this sport, I was always an advocate. In spite of living through what people fear most, I still am. I will say it again, motorcycling was, and still is, one of the threads that bind the fabric of our family. I truly believe that in spite of the recent events, I still am ahead.

    Kevin was the eldest, and as children inevitably do, set out to start his own life. Many times contact with the family diminishes greatly, as they forge their own life and pick their way through life, and although this was the case at times, we stayed close because of our shared affection for riding. Kevin had his motorcycle license before his car license, and always loved riding. In his adult life we took numerous day and weekend trips, did several track days together, shared the social aspect of riding with a bunch of people from the area, and of course took our last ÔÇ£Family VacationÔÇØ when we all went to Europe to ride in 2004. None of this would have happened without the shared interest in two wheels.


    Bottom line is I would not change my decision to teach them to ride, enjoy life to the fullest, and cram as much living into life as you can, because you never know how long or short it will be. And it is an undeniable fact that no one gets out of life alive.
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    I agree with pffog

    although i can't imagine the ache that losing someone so young, and my heart reaches out to you and your family....

    that the shared passion and love of riding enrichened your family's lives immensly. You are blessed to have them share your passion. There are many people who are not so lucky.

    I chose to not live in a glass house and wait for my demise, but instead chose to sqeeze every ounce out of every day that i am given with my family and friends on this here spinning rock.

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    I agree with you all. What makes it better - I marride a woman who rode before I met her. I / we started at 9 years old at the time - All quaility gear as well. We live in a City - So we started out in the counrty at first - out on counrty roads - slow speeds. We then moved to fatser speeds / vacations, bike meetings / breakfast, ect. Start out slow - JEFF

    Gail & her daughter I met in Johnson City,TN - we talked on this issue & the mother / daughter (kid) bonding is important for any family.

    Richard / pffog - I've known for a couple of years now- 2 to 3 group rides a year now with him (not on the track) Amazing rider - A kid who has not grown up ! He's told me some good stories and should teach rider safty classes or track riding. Again - we're sorry for your families lose.

    We trust our kids & teach them right - it's others who do not ride I have problems with
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    I have no difficulties imagining the pain of losing a child (got 4: 4-7-9-11), but still would do the same as you did, teach them well.

    That's what I did, started last year with my oldest daughter when she told me:
    ''dad when you get bored with your motorbike (1150GS...very unlikely) and you're old (I'm 41!!), I want to have your bike!!'' , ''and when I turn 14 I wnat to have my own scooter...''

    I answered :''Sure no problem, but you'll have to take a course and wear protective equipment'' and other conditions like day riding only at first, maybe a few rides with dad and so on.

    But yeah I think kids should start young.

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    Quote Originally Posted by GoNoPo View Post
    Have others struggled with this or am I just OCD?




    my son raced motocross for over 10 years and now races cross-country.

    when he got his license, i let him ride my R100RS... after appropriate on-road training by a private instructor. (pretty funny.... he thought that since the bike was 1,000cc that he could whip his buddies riding japanese 600s....)

    i couldn't believe the panic i felt as we rode together... i was always checking my rear view mirrors.

    he subsequently decided that street riding just wasn't for him.

    now, i can watch him fly triples, but the thought of him in traffic still scares me. i don't think it will ever be different.

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    I have two kids, 6+4yrs. If your 6 yr old is like mine, he is already infected with the motobug. I gave in three years ago, and converted from two wheels to three. What a blast! And the kids love it! Took William to a rally when he was baby, but we have not been since. Summer 2010, I have two rallies planed.
    So GoNoPo, here are my thought on sharing the sport with the family...to each his own, but it works for me!
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    Hey all; Both of my son's ride. The older, now 26 has a Ninja, while his "little" brother has a Suzuki 500. Both only got their bikes AFTER taking the MSF course, and both (and their very proud papa) have completed the ERC as well. I didn't realize how good they were until we took a family ride to the U.P together. It was all I could do to keep them in sight, as the two of them went off ahead, playing like a couple of... well... kids!! Lot's of scary moments for dear OLD dad, watching these two young men dragging foot pegs and dicing it out on M.22. Both the kids have had crashes and dad continues to pray for them daily. I couldn't imagine what it must be like to lose a child in this fashion, but I realize that it is possible, I hope that they outlive me,but you never know... My condolences to you and your family pffog. Vaya con Dios, Dutch

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    My son Eric has logged a few thousand miles with me over the past three years, starting when he was 8. My 9 year old, Samantha just started riding with me this Summer for the first time. They both have been bitten big time, and I wouldn't have it any other way. What a great experience to share. By the time Brandi and Laci are ready, I might need a bike with TWO sidecars!

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